Esthers: I AM A STRONG WOMAN

Esthers: I AM A STRONG WOMAN: I struggled today with a heading for my write up. I started with “WOMEN AS OUR OWN ENEMIES’, but ended up with ‘I AM A STRONG WOMAN.’ Yes I...

I AM A STRONG WOMAN

I struggled today with a heading for my write up. I started with “WOMEN AS OUR OWN ENEMIES’, but ended up with ‘I AM A STRONG WOMAN.’ Yes I am a strong woman and it would surprise you that I am not using ‘STRONG’ to mean physical strength or strength in terms of my capabilities.

Those of you familiar with following blogs would have read the ‘rants’ of Lola Omotayo (married to one of the P-SQUARES) and Caroline Danjuma calling out women for their penchant to want to bring other women down. Caroline had this to say: " A strong woman supports another woman, an insecure woman destroys another...."

I have heard countless people say they wish to be employed by a male boss rather than a female one. While I don’t agree with this I agree totally with what Caroline had to say above. I have had countless situations where I had felt that had it been a male I would have been better off, some women just have a certain hatred for other women, recently a female police woman stopped me and I used all the tricks in the book but she won’t bulge. I would tell you about her in another post.

Today I would share something that happened to me and this would reiterate the reason why I agree with Caroline and Lola. Some years back we were conducting interviews to fill in sales positions in the firm I worked for and in walks this lady who had just completed her degree in Marketing, she had no experience, couldn't answer any questions. In the course of talking to her I realized that she could do well in accounts department as she had a previous degree in accountancy and had practical experience in accountancy. So I asked her a few accounting questions and volla she answered very well. Two months down the line there was a vacancy in our accounts department and my mind quickly flashed back to this lady, I put her name forward to the team and they all disagreed and said the position should be given to a gentleman. The gentle man was given the position and he performed badly and resigned after four months. I immediately thought about this lady again and went ahead to have a talk with my boss who asked that I invite her in for a discussion. She was employed that day.

Fast forward to a year later. She cost the company to lose a huge sum of money and an audit had to be carried on, I strongly added my voice to the audit and I became her enemy. I am one person who says it as it is. I value friends who can call me out any time I go wrong and correct me. This lady has acted more than once in ways in which I think she now wants me out of my firm, how can I who did everything to get you a job now be your greatest enemy. Just yesterday there was another incident which I would share another time and I was forced to call her and this were my words “we don’t have to be friends, we are not rivals but can we put all sentiments and emotions apart and earn our pay, lets do the jobs we are employed to do”

I am not saying that she should be grateful to me for given her a job all I am saying is why want to pull me down when all I did was to lift you up. For four months I kept you in mind as a fellow woman and kept pushing for you to be employed

Women lets change our ways, be proud of your fellow woman, celebrate her, admire rather than envy her, pray for her, wish her well. And as Caroline puts it “I am a strong woman” I am passionate about the causes that affect women, willing to help other women succeed, I would continue to support women, I would not pull another woman down and I would not let a woman pull me down.

Thank you

Esther’s Opinion

Esthers: WHY I DECIDED TO BLOG

Esthers: WHY I DECIDED TO BLOG: I have noticed that most of the time I am misunderstood and so creating a blog would allow me first and foremost to express myself and my s...

WHY I DECIDED TO BLOG

I have noticed that most of the time I am misunderstood and so creating a blog would allow me first and foremost to express myself and my standpoint on happenings around me and secondly it would allow people if they care to read to understand me more. My training as a Lawyer has brought me up to have strong view points. My ways of expressing them may not always be the best way but inside me I am one loving person with a heart of gold.

I would be posting on this blog life experiences and happenings me as they happen around me. I would try not to put out real names but please if you think I am referring to you in my writings before you pick up the gun to shoot me, try to see my view point and if you are still offended talk to me about it.

I am one person who sticks my neck out for people; I value friendships and am loyal. I most of the times don’t get repaid back with the same favour but all the same this wouldn’t  stop me from doing good. I get hurt when this happens but I move on the next day. Would still stick my neck out for someone else

I would also blog a lot about my kids, I have two of them and trust my daughter says the most grown up things that I wonder where she gets her intelligence from. I wished I had thought of documenting the happenings in my home earlier. My son is 13 and my daughter is 10.

Finally please feel free to drop polite comments as you read.

Thank you

Shuwa